Borderline Personality Blog: Healing – Coping – Improving

My first resolution is to get through the post-holiday blues without becoming overly depressed. Once everything gets “back to normal” around January 4th and holiday trimmings come down, I always find myself falling into a low mood. It’s exciting and happy to be around loved ones during the holidays and relive decades old traditions. Later, when I’m back in my apartment behind my computer alone again, there’s a big let down. Returning to “the grind” sucks. I wish holidays were spaced out better.

I think many psychologists and psychiatrists recognize there is a disappointment after all the joy has passed, and I wouldn’t be surprised if it makes the DSM one day. Some people experience depression when winter hits – which I believe is Seasonal Affective Disorder – and that’s a well documented phenomenon.

On Friday, December 14, 2012, a disturbed gunman forcefully entered an elementary school in Newtown, Connecticut. He was carrying 2 sidearms and one semi-automatic .223 Bushmaster rifle. After shooting his way through the school doors, he used the semi-automatic to shoot between 3-11 rounds into 27 different people, before shooting himself. Of the 27 hit, 26 died. Of the 26 that died, 20 were children around 7 years of age.

I will now propose what I believe to be a pragmatic two-pronged approach to making these horrific crimes a thing of the past.

Up until the early 1990s, my mother’s youngest brother would occasionally join us for Christmas. My mother was on good terms with him for most of her life. We attended his marriage to a lovely Japanese woman and got to know their daughter, named in my grandmother’s honor. My father took a picture of my mother (the oldest) and her two younger brothers on the front steps of our house many years ago, and it is a nice reminder of what was. Now things are much different.

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